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4 secrets to building a brand that people love

Fri, 02 Sep 2022 05:47:47 GMT

You define your brand and your personality is reflected in your service, and product (your baby).
MY 4 LOVEMARK rules.

Photography by @veronika.shsh

Now, let's just be the observers (catch your emotion and decide how to act next).

Who do you see in the picture below?!

I am assuming that you see a fast walking stylish woman who wears bright clothes (she is not afraid to be seen), holding a planner (you may think that she likes to plan and values her time. In the reality, it's her product, and she published it probably because she plans everything ahead). She SMILES, which makes you feel safe to say "Hi" and start the conversation.

LOVEMARK RULE N1: Let your personality speak louder than the words about what you have to offer.

As you can see, my workbook/planner for women reflects who I am: I am well-organized, business oriented, I allow my face to be part of my company, and I always put myself out there (even when I am scared). I stand up for the empowerment of women, and it is perfectly reflected in my product.

RULE N2 Discover who you are 1st so there is no misinterpretation between your product and the person who stands behind it.

Example of misinterpretation:

"I am vegetarian, but I have meat production caz it's profitable", I meaaaaan WHAAAAAAT!?

Rule N3 Define your core values and your brand's values/mission.

Don't just sell a product/ service - sell experience, happiness, and a solution.

Good example: GUL Planner made 700 women happier and more organized.

Bad example: I sold 700 copies.

RULE N4 Show up for yourself!

Personal brand + product + service = lovemark (a brand people LOVE)

I offer coaching services that go perfectly with my product (as you know, besides undated daily planning pages GUL Planner includes 12 empowering exercises for women to discover their authentic selves).

I lead group coaching sessions in the heart of LA, and we follow the 12 Steps that are published in the GUL Planner. Besides, I offer 1:1 life&business coaching sessions. As you can see, my personal brand + GUL Planner + coaching sessions at which we use GUL Planner = a brand people LOVE and who believe in my purpose.

Remember, people will always interpret the brand and product to be an extension of the person who created it. People want to buy from people. It is that simple. You define your brand! Not your sales manager or PR - YOU!

Now wind down for a moment and think about your product + your service + your personal brand, what does it equal = ?

If you want, share it with me in the comments below I will be happy to read them. If not, I will be happy just to wind down:)

You can read this blogpost in the RU language clicking the link below

Time to Get to Know Each Other Better

Thu, 11 Aug 2022 22:26:04 GMT

It’s time to reintroduce myself and take our relationships to the next level.

��I am a Ukrainian woman living in Los Angeles spreading my love, knowledge, and experience with others who are like me: want to be happy, and fulfilled… BUT it wasn’t always like this.

��I struggled for years with anxiety, suicidal thoughts, self-hate, and false belief of being unlovable, or lovable but CONDITIONALLY (my childhood was pretty f*cked up and I had to grow up fast).

��I established my 1st business at the age of 18 in Ukraine and made more money than I made in the USA in the first 2 years of immigration. I invested the money I made IN myself: I immigrated at the age of 21 to a foreign land where I knew nobody to obtain my Master's Degree.

��Before immigration, I'd been into emotional&physical abusive relationships with an alcohol addict (you attract what you think you deserve).

��For 23 years of my life, I was overcompensating my childish misery with labels, diplomas, money, and achievements. I had a dream to work in the UN just for the working title (it calls overcompensation).

��I was published in the VOGUE USA January 2022 as a proud ambassador of Floral Event Production company owned by incredibly talented woman Karina Grigoryants.

��My human design chart is a Projector, and “the protagonist” type with 16 personalities. (I highly recommend you to know your personality type and human design chart: you can use this knowledge to discover yourself and live who you are and understand yourself better = being more caring towards yourself).

��I appeared on the cover of GMARO magazine in July 2022 and gave an interview about my healing process, and the importance of taking care of the inner beauty.

��I used to be a co-founder of the art gallery in Dubai for 2 years during the pandemic.

��Since 2022 I'm an art collector myself thanks to my incredible art dealer Ekaterina Touchon, the co-founder of TOUCHON Gallery.

�� I have 3 younger sisters who live in Ukraine and Poland who I support emotionally and financially (I’m the oldest one - and it’s where you become hyper-responsible, and it doesn’t serve you in the adulthood).

�� My younger sister Anastasia gave birth to a kid at the bomb shelter on the 27th of February 2022, in Ukraine, 3 days after the Russian occupation (if you want to help me to support her mentally&financially please DM).

�� I have 2 immigrations in my pocket: before coming to the USA, I lived 5 years in Poland, Krakow, and Warsaw where I obtained my Master's degree in International Relations (and I built my international marriage), and Cultural Diplomacy vs. Postgraduate Degree in International Organizations.

�� I am married since 2016 to a Polish man.

�� I speak 3 languages a day: English, Polish (to my husband), and Russian (to my Eastern-European friends and family).

�� I lost a child at the age of 23 which caused a major trauma to my mental health but LEAD to healing journey, and the birth of 12-Step Self-Discovery program for women.

��In 2020 I published an empowering workbook, and became an author of the 12-Step Self-Discovery Program that is published in the GUL Planner.

��For the last 2 years, 2020-2022 I've sold 700 copies in the USA and Europe.

��I knocked to the closed doors for quite long but it paid off because now you can find GUL Planners at the most beautiful bookstores in Los Angeles:

��Online:

On my website, Amazon, eBay, Fb&IG, and Etsy: just type in the GUL Planner 12-Step program.

�� I lead my authorship 12-Step program group coaching sessions for the last 2 years to empower women to find their authentic voice through 12 simple steps that are in GUL Planner©. You can learn more clicking on the link below.

My professional qualification to coach and guide proactive people:
��I obtained my Bachelor’s Degree in Teaching (Sumy State Pedagogical University) and I worked as a teacher/tutor for 10 years (In Ukraine and in Poland); Master’s Degree degree in International Relations and Cultural Diplomacy (Krakow Academy Modrzewskiego), Postgraduate Degree in International Organizations (Warsaw European Academy of Diplomacy) I had a scholarship at the Consulate of Ukraine in Krakow, Poland, and the EU Brussels.

��In 2020 I obtained Life&Business Coach certification (The International Association of Professionals (IAP) Career College) in the USA.

��I got two Public Speaking certifications by Sonia MPower.

��Obtained two Television Presenter diplomas by MediaStarTV school.

��I have nine years of personal therapy and two years of supervision.

��Currently taking an online course on how to create metaphorical cards from 0. Learning and exploring life is a never-ending process for me.

�� I attract money through different sources by selling GUL Planners, coaching 1:1 and in the group, business coaching creating brand strategy and marketing plan for small business owners, promoting women-owned businesses making commission out of it and doing part-time modeling, and acting.

�� I am celebrating the healing of my narcissistic personality disorder, and overcompensation defense mechanisms every single day, and preaching celebration of life to my clients.

In 2023 I will turn 30 and my big one-year plan is to go nationwide with my product (GUL Planner), to create a mobile app with online 12 Step self-discovery educational&empowering videos, to publish metaphorical associative cards, and to be featured in the @forbes under 30 list.

��If you want to help me make it happen and my life story resonates with you, please share my blogpost with people who need motivation, guidance and light, get #gulplanner for yourself or a woman you love, and come to my 1:1 and group coaching sessions.

Lots of love,

xoxo

Eugeniia GUL

Happiness is...

Thu, 03 Jun 2021 06:07:34 GMT

Edited by Shay Michael

Photos by Suyeong Yang

Researchers find that people from all over of the world rate happiness more important than other desirable personal outcomes, such as obtaining wealth, living in a dream country, and finding the right person.

Psychologists began to study happiness only 25 years ago.

There is nothing difficult as defining what happiness is. Can you see happiness? Can you touch it? Can you buy it? Well, depends on what happiness for you is! You can count money, but not happiness.

To my mind, the happiest people are not those who experience blissful feelings, but those with the most stable positive outlook. Don't take me wrong, even the happiest people sometimes get discouraged, and the most unhappy have delightful moments. Happiness is a way of thinking, well, positive rather than negative. Happiness is about looking for the good and opportunities in a situation, rather than the bad.

When I think about divorce or death, the feeling that I get is fear, then I ask myself, "Am I really scared?" Or is it society's fears? If you ask me... I am not afraid of divorce. Divorce might be the beginning of something new and can lead you to meet a great person. Death is the same for me. It's not the end. It is the beginning of true life.

American psychologists Sonya Lubomirsky and Ken Sheldon summarized everything that is known to science in this regard and presented it in the form of a circle divided into three parts of different sizes. The largest part of the circle - half of it - is the influence of personality and genetics. Some people feel happy since childhood, no matter what happens to them, while others find it difficult to feel that they are doing well.

Approximately fifty percent of happiness is due to our genes.

Why are some of us happier than others? About fifty percent (50%) of the answer lies in genetics.

The smallest part of the circle - about 10% - lies in our life circumstances

including the place where we live, income level, quality of education, marital status, having or not having kids, belonging to a particular social circle, or not. Therefore, from the point of view of psychologists, it makes no sense to go somewhere in the pursuit of happiness. We tend to think: "Oh, I'll be happier when I achieve more positive things in my life. When I get a new job, or when I get a boyfriend when I get married when I have a baby when I make more money". But, the truth is, those things don't affect our happiness as much as we think they will. People often believe that happiness will be achieved once they reach a certain milestone, as I believed 5 years ago, such as finding the perfect partner, living in the country of my dreams, or landing a particular salary.

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I am an evident example of a person who mistakenly believed that I will be happier if...

"If" - is my least favorite word but... I was certain if I move to the USA if I have 3 diplomas if I speak several languages fluently if I have a decent partner and a solid income I will be happy. I have it all now, I have 3 diplomas a Bachelor degree in Teaching, a Master's Degree in Cultural Diplomacy, and a Postgraduate in International Relations, I speak 3 languages a day - Polish, English, and Russian, I obtained numerous certificates in coaching and TV presenting, I married reliable man, I live in the country of my childhood dreams the USA and I published a workbook that helps women to discover who they are on the deepest level.

Can you imagine how it feels? It feels FANTASTIC, but only for a while. Like a morning hot coffee with a foam feels GREAT when it's fresh, but after a couple of hours, the same coffee is not as delicious as it was in the early morning. This "coffee" is not the state of mind; it is only 10% that makes us feel better but not HAPPY.

The remaining 40% of the circle is under our power to change.

It is how we work on ourselves: what goals we strive for, what people we surround ourselves with, what activities we choose, what diet we keep to, what kind of life we live. Happiness depends on us much more than we used to think.

Happy people live with purpose. They work toward their goals and live life according to their values (discover your core values with GUL PLANNER, Step 10). A happy person is fine with the simple pleasures of life petting a dog, sitting under a tree, enjoying a cup of tea or lukewarm water in the morning (discover what makes you happy with GUL PLANNER, Step 3). Happy person is not obsessed with material goods or luxury vacations. Numerous studies prove that money does not make us happy. But why is this myth so popular? Let's be honest, money brings happiness, but not for a long period. Have you ever experienced unpacked goodies from desirable shopping for days or even weeks? I did. High five! We are on the same page! People for whom money is especially important - feel more unhappy than those who believe in the power of the universe.

Here are a few examples of the mindset of a happy person:

HAPPY PERSON:

Is open to learning new things
Is patient
Smiles and laughs
Goes with the flow
Practices compassion, gratitude, and self-care
Enjoys healthy relationships - no drama
Is happy for other people and cheers them up
Gives and receives without any expectations (GUL PLANNER Step 11)
Lives with meaning and purpose
Is not angry or offensive
Does not dread over yesterday and tomorrow
Is not a victim

Is it you?

Everyone has their own path to happiness

There is no universal key that will open the "happiness door". A happy person is distinguished from an unhappy person by his habits and life choices. The first step to happiness is to think of your intentions first when you wake up in the morning (instead of going over emails immediately) and to make a choice to be happy. Every day brings us new chances, new insights, new people, and new perceptions of happiness. I made a choice 5 years ago to be happy, and now I know that my happiness doesn't depend on my academic degrees, job title, and marital status. For me, happiness is the state of mind. Happiness for me is the state of my being. Happiness for me is ME.

If you are trying to be happier, over time, not only you are going to feel happier, but you will receive all of the other gifts from the universe.

Isn't that what you want?

Art of Public Speaking by a Phenomenal Woman SoniaMpower

Wed, 21 Apr 2021 05:03:58 GMT

Awaken your voice

We, women, are powerful, strong, inspiring, and we have a gift to connect with others through the spoken word in different ways. The goal of the speech may be to educate, entertain, or influence the listeners. I would love to share my experience of being a part of the women speakers training "Phenomenal Woman" by Sonia Maslovskaya, the aim of which was the confidence boost and communication skills improvement.

If you are like me, continuously work on yourself, then my experience of the public speaking class will be useful for you.

Pretty powerful, and rhetorical, huh?! I always say that you are the one who decides whether to be good or phenomenal (it applies to every area in your life). Let me introduce you to a woman who will change and improve your communications skills once and forever.

Sonia is an inspiring and captivating speaker who has given over 300 powerful presentations to audiences between 100-600 guests.

Sonia is passionate about teaching communication and public speaking in the most positive, empowering, and uplifting way. I was at her masterclass, and I saw how passionate, professio nal and phenomenal she is. Sonia believes that the art of speaking could elevate all areas of our lives. I agree with Sonia, and I think that how you say something matters more than what you say.

Here are some tips from Sonia Maslovskaya that I've learned during the public speaking webinar on HOW to say, and I kindly want to share them with you:

UNDERSTAND YOUR EMOTIONS

Identify SPECIFIC emotions: know what emotions you want your audience to feel - compassion, sadness, hope. Express your emotions, and know what emotions to show.

Engage in an emotional connection! Call and response are crucial.

Engage in all senses, sight, sound, smell, touch, and taste.

Identify emotions you need to succeed.

Allow yourself to be inspired by your emotions.

build a strong connection

Start with a question, story, quote, unique fact.

Share something deeply personal.

Don’t think about your responses. Listen to important verbal cues.

BE INVOLVED

Ask questions throughout the talk.

Make the audience feel as if you are having a dialogue with them.

Write the affirmations down to your favorite journal, notes on your phone, or record your voice and listen to it before an important meeting or giving a speech.

Remember that it's POSSIBLE to overcome glossophobia (speech anxiety), improve your communication skills and share your ideas boldly, and without apology by practicing, practicing, and PRACTICING with a public speaking coach.

Last but not least, advice from Sonia which I ABSOLUTELY LOVE

"You can never go wrong when following your passion".

To my mind, Sonia did a PHENOMENAL job empowering us, women, to speak with confidence and staying in our feminine power during the webinar. I strongly recommend you to take her 4-week public speaking course, Awaken Your Voice that comes with a bonus of a complimentary 90-min private coaching session. The course consists of four 90-minute sessions that will be conducted virtually in small group settings every Sunday between April 25th – May 16th, 2021.

Sonia will deliver a unique and memorable experience with excellence and elegance. Don't believe me? Check it out yourself!

Click on the button below and get over the fear of public speaking just in ONE month!

Besides being a great public speaking coach, Sonia contributes to our world by combating human trafficking. I am DELIGHTFUL to support women who look with me in the same direction. Sonia has similar core values to mine; she stands for human rights and donates 10% of all proceeds to organizations that combat human trafficking and modern slavery. She works with several nonprofit organizations to improve the lives of disadvantaged and vulnerable people around the world and I CELEBRATE such women who CARE. And you?

Empowering activities during COVID – 19 lockdown

Tue, 07 Apr 2020 21:39:43 GMT

The below recommendations are exactly what I’m doing during the quarantine and I am sincerely sharing with you what makes me feel grounded during uncertain times, which doesn’t mean that I don’t care about the virus. I am like you anxious about a pandemic, I am like you going crazy after watching the news, I am like you depressed about COVID-19 confirmed cases and death cases numbers and yes… I am worried about the future of our world.
On this blog post, I’m sharing some empowering home activities, which are focused on healing, self-development and grounding. Share this blog post with people you love and who don’t know what to do during the lockdown.

R ead B ooks

Reading reduces stress and helps you to forget about all the worries you may have in a certain period of your life. We live in uncertain times and snuggling up with a book instead of watching the news can help you to forget for a moment about COVID-19.

Choose a book which most closely matches your needs at the present moment. Are you stressed? Read the books about emotional healing and self-help. Are you struggling with finding yourself? Read autobiography books of the people who inspire you. Reading inspiring autobiography books or stories about imaginary heroes can motivate you to become a better version of yourself and to achieve your goals faster.

Do you dream of starting your own business? Find entrepreneur books which will make it more clear for you on how to establish your company and to live life on your terms.

Listen to yourself, listen to your thoughts and notice what you noticing. You don’t have to ask people for books recommendations; you should listen to yourself because all of the answers you seek are within you. What is good for one is not always good for all.

I highly recommend you to highlight the most powerful and inspiring quotes in the book of your choice, the quotes you like the most will be your guide to life improvement.

Last but not least, the more knowledge you gain by reading, the more clarity you gain about your life. People who read books are nicer, more knowledgeable and more empathetic than the ones who don’t. The choice belongs to you.

D o the cleaning at your home

I am pretty sure that people who have clean homes – usually have an organized life. Have you ever been to the house of a successful person? It’s not messy and the things are in its place. You may say that successful people are rich and they can afford to hire a housekeeper, well, but what stops you from being a successful person and hiring a cleaning lady? Start from small things; create a habit of living in a clean and tidy home in the beginning and then consider an investment of hiring a housekeeper if cleaning doesn’t bring you joy.

Your home is a place where you forget about chaos outside.

But if you come back from chaos to “chaos” (your home) you have chaos at your head. Does it make sense to you?

M editate

Being 100% honest with you I didn’t believe in the power of meditation till the moment meditation became part of my life. The first meditations felt very strange and unusual – like I was out of normal life like it wasn’t me at all. Afterwards, I’ve noticed that meditation is effective for me at reducing the stress of everyday life. If you want to reduce stress levels, meditation may be the answer.

I highly recommend you to upload a mobile application Tide , that can help you live better, sleep better, breathe and relax (it’s free of charge).

P ractice Y oga

The same story is about yoga practice, I didn’t believe in the power of yoga and Bodypump™ classes seemed to be more interesting.

Yoga usually involves paying attention to your breath, which can help you relax. Lastly, I practice yoga at home with my favourite Boho Beautiful Youtube Channel– try the classes with her – you won’t regret and your body will say “thank you” to you in a form of stressing less and being more relaxed. Besides, on the channel, you can find healthy vegan meal preparation, mat-based pilates or fitness workout, and Boho diaries about two yogis wandering the earth together. I love looking at these guys; they are a couple who travel together, work together and look for the meaning of life TOGETHER.

I mprove Your Overall F lexibility

There are lots of benefits of stretching – it can not only help increase your flexibility, but it is great for stress relief. When we are stressed – our muscles are tightening up and your goal should be to focus on mindfulness and to enjoy the process. 5-15 minutes of stretching a day, can help increase your flexibility, which is crucial for your overall health. I like to stretch after the workout, I believe that it shortens my recovery time and it reduces muscle soreness.

C reate a Plan for your Life – lockdown won’t last forever

Unfortunately, many people don’t know what their life mission is and where exactly do they go in their lives… Honestly? I try not to worry about lockdown so much and to enjoy the moment at home: journaling, planning and visualizing the best version of myself. You can do it too! Think every little detail through:

• Describe where you wake up

• Are you alone or are you having a big family?

• What do you eat for breakfast?

• Who makes breakfast for you?

• What do you do after breakfast?

• Where do you go?

• What clothes are you wearing?

• What people surround you?

And so on and so on – you got the point – write down as many details as possible. Then think for a while… how would it make you feel if you would have such a life?

Create your life vision, make a map of your big dreams! When you are uncertain, you don’t know what to do exactly, thus you feel confused, depressed, miserable and unwanted. I don’t want you to feel this way – I want you to be happy about your life.

Happy people contribute more to our Planet than the ones who are unhappy with their own lives.

W ork with a life coach on your G oals

What do you really want for yourself?

Hopefully, you decided on what you want and made a dream map, but if you still have difficulties with setting the action plan for achieving your big goal – consider talking to a professional life coach. A life coach can help you to get over your challenges, to formulate an action plan and to make a significant change in your life (if you are ready for it)! From my experience, the majority of people want money and success but they are not ready for it. So, it’s a good question to ask yourself whether you feel that the moment is NOW or you need more time to get ready and to be more crystal clear on what you really want for yourself.

P lant the F lowers

Speaking about the contribution to our Planet and living a happy life: people who live around nature feel much happier than those that don't. The plants help you feel less boxed in, especially now when all of us are staying at home during the virus. Btw staying at home – you contribute to our world A LOT because you can be infected or/and spread the virus. Staying at home – you save your life and lives of other people. Many of us know it – not all of us do it.

Coming back to the plants, plants make you think of the outdoors and you can have a sense of peace around them. Without forgetting to mention that planting flowers have a positive impact on you, our environment and it increases your feeling of well-being (now it’s all about your well-being, positive energy and patience).

B enefit of an online therapy

Sessions with the psychologist are for crazy people or for people who value personal growth?

My old Ukrainian close-minded way of thinking tried to convince me that sessions with psychologists are only for crazy people and for people who have mental health issues... but it’s wrong! So my lovely friends, do not allow society to convince you in their beliefs...form your own opinion!⠀

Remember one thing from the person who has sessions with the therapist every Friday for 3 years already - therapy is about growth and creating opportunities for positive change. So give yourself this gift!

Therapy is not ONLY for problem-solving, overcoming anxiety and depression, but it's also a way to build relationships with yourself and to welcome emotional wellness into your life. You don't have to “be crazy” to benefit from therapy. Find a professional who will help you to get feedback on whatever you’re feeling and saying and again, do not ask everyone around you to find a therapist for you – do it yourself! I will repeat what I’ve mentioned before - what is good for one is not always good for all.

S et life priorities

People who know me in real life say that I love to overthink and to find a sense in everything. Well, good that they noticed that and said it to me, but it actually doesn’t affect my life and I accept myself unconditionally: I prefer people who think than who don’t think and don’t care at all. Last two weeks, I was analyzing why the virus causes a global pandemic, why now, why people are isolated at their homes, why people forgot how is it to stay at one place for so many hours a day with the family members? Then I’ve realized that the quarantine can actually help all of us to set the priorities in life (or to reset the old ones).

I honestly believe that the key to a happy and successful life is to get really clear on your priorities and stick with them. My life priorities are the balance between my family life and career, but unfortunately, before the quarantine, I preferred to work longer hours than to spend those hours with my husband or friends. Life priorities are like GPS to keep you on course. Let me be honest with you, I didn’t stay the course…I failed… and I neglected the most important things in life: love, quality time with people I love and my health, what about you?

I’ve realized, that every action that we take and every decision that we make will put us one step closer or one step farther away from our goals. The best guidelines to keep in mind for me is the book 7 Habits of Highly Successful People by Steven Covey (I recommend you to read it twice)

To be back on track – we should take good care of ourselves and people we love. Hopefully, my honesty and obvious but so important activities during COVID-19 will make you rethink about what matters for you in life the most.

Don’t live in fear. It eats your soul and sucks your positive energy. Live in love.‬

Choose love.

What is Well-being and How Can We Get MORE of it?

Thu, 16 Jan 2020 03:56:01 GMT

A while ago a friend of mine asked if I know what’s the sense of life is… It didn’t take much time to answer her rhetorical question and I answered her that I do… for me, the sense of life is to be happy!
Humanity has always tried to reach the state of complete happiness, which includes many aspects. At least once in a lifetime one asks what this feeling is like and how it can be measured. However, it is not always possible to maintain the constant delight and sense of stability.

First of all, we should improve mental health and change our attitude to different life obstacles, to do what makes us happy and to practice happiness.

Unfortunately, nowadays, we are usually ready to sacrifice our health to achieve greater results at work, take care of the closest family-members and pay bills, which won’t be paid itself. It’s so difficult to refuse from the new tempting projects, cause “we’ve learnt how to use all the given chances and opportunities”. However, if we could stop for a moment and dive deeper into our consciousness, would we act in the same way?

Society has always put pressure on our daily choices starting from shopping and TV programmes, and ending with global options: what profession to develop in, which university to enter and how to bring the children up. In this constant flow of possible opportunities, it is vital not to forget about our wishes and aspirations.

I always take good care of my body, mind and soul. At least I try! When we’re taking care of our bodies, we’re automatically taking care of our mind and soul! Our whole organism is ideally connected, which means that once a trifle is emaciated, the effect will not take long. Respectively, we are supposed to do our best to prevent exhaustion and discouragement. On an everyday basis, our habits rule our behaviour. There must be streamlined daily actions, for which you do not need deep concentration and dedication.

Well-being helps us stay resilient, build social support and self-efficacy, and cope with adversity. But what exactly is the well-being and if it's so good for us, how do we get more of it?

My TOP 10 of being in harmony with yourself

1) Don’t beat yourself up.

Compliment yourself on the things you do well; acknowledge failures and learn from the failure. Mistakes build the process of learning but do not spoil everything going around. It is just a matter of perception.

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2) Find a healthy dose of self-critique.

Do you like when someone critiques you? Do you like to observe crazy moms who critique their children in public places? Hopefully, you don’t. Next time before judging and criticising yourself, imagine screaming lady… I’m assuming that you don’t want to be that Walmart screaming lady, don’t you?

3) Listen to yourself.

No one knows you better than you do; no one knows what makes you happy and no one knows what is right/wrong for you. There’s nothing wrong with asking people for a piece of advice, but it’s NOT OK to follow people’s advice without acknowledging and asking yourself “Is it really good for me?”. Remember, you’re the author of your life. Not your mom, friends or partner - YOU!

4) Listen to your body.

Not to the bUddy, but bOdy, ok? We talked about buddies above. We live in the gluten-free, dairy-free etc-free world… BUT don’t be the victim of fashion, be the author of your life! You’re the ONE who knows what is good and what is NOT good for you. Just observe how your body feels and how your body reacts to the different things (it’s not only about food).

5) Read books.

Reading is a priceless activity, it has been observed that the habit of reading has declined because of the growth of technology. However, what most people don’t know is there is so much to benefit from reading, like stress relief, memory&imagination improvement, vocabulary building, communication skills improvement and many others.

6) Believe in yourself.

If not you, then who? Do not listen to others blaming on you for the flamboyant T-shirt from the last run or criticising the recently developed business idea. No matter how hard our way is, the self-delight should always be present. Remember to appreciate yourself and praise your individuality.

7) Get nutrients from foods or/and from the right vitamins&supplements.

For some people, vitamin and mineral supplements offer important health benefits.

Taking a dietary supplement is not beneficial if you're in good general health. Taking vitamin and mineral supplements will not make you healthy, but will help you to be healthier. I'm pretty sure that you know that an appointment with a doctor before taking any additional supplements is not only the necessity but a must. Besides, one is to check various resources on the Internet as well as the printed literature. You had better explore all the probable issues, up to the moment you are face-to-face with obscure medicines.

I prepared for you the list of vitamins, which may help you to be healthier and to feel better (the download link is below).

8) Nourish your body with healthy food.

Eating well for health and weight management requires understanding two components: what to eat and how to eat. Even if you have always been the person of “I prefer fast-food”, just do one small step to better knowledge. You will be amazed after finding yourself in a week subscribed to a dozen of bloggers, who are active proponents of the healthy lifestyle! It is close to impossible to pin down a telling impact of a balanced diet, but you can have no doubts concerning the effect!

9) Be active.

Our bodies are designed and have evolved to be regularly active. We all know that exercise is important in our daily lives, but we may not know why or what exercise can do for us. Just have a look at my pictures below... do you think that I was born so flexible? Of course, not! Consistent workouts, meditation and yoga will help YOU to achieve the results you want. Additionally, stretching may reduce stress and make you feel more relaxed.

Your Body Can Do It

It's Time to Convince Your Mind

10) Help others.

Helping others will make you feel better, every act of giving back your time, money or energy boost your health and happiness.

Peace of mind is associated with such personal characteristics as self-confidence, adequate self-esteem, a positive outlook on life, goodwill, sociability, and emotional stability. This coherent list impresses most insightfully! One person seems not to be able to embrace and implement in life all the components, but what if you will be the pioneer? Surely, you can start from any step, but keep in mind the main goal – is to find what makes you happy and to be happy!

Photography by @4romanlife

How to Migrate to a Different Country?

Tue, 27 Aug 2019 00:54:50 GMT

Each action starts with a thought a nd moral set. Leaving the hometown is like declining from your comfort zone. Why the abundance of people is ready for this step? Do they usually look for new opportunities or just running away from the previous life? One should fight for better conditions and be confident in future occupation. Otherwise, a person risks its health, loss of motivation, depression, close relations and, secure position.

People have always preferred living a predictable life with family responsibilities, meetings with friends from childhood, going to the same office and paying the bills. This is what makes them happy. But not me. I was born in Ukraine, but since I was a kid, I didn’t like the Ukrainian mentality, I didn’t understand what am I doing at that place and who are the people I surrounded myself with.

At the age of 21, I changed my life and immigrated to Poland to get my Master’s degree in International Relations and Cultural Diplomacy. How I made it?

I planned it,

visualized my life in an unknown country and saved money, which I earned myself.

I had a hope and desire of finding peace, harmony, freedom and my life mission in the unknown land. Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to find inner peace. In Poland, I’ve realized what “discrimination against foreigners” really means (not from the books). On my worst days, I didn’t want to get out from home and sometimes I didn’t even want to get out of bed. What for? To try hard and to fail again and again? Thank you. Tired. Nevertheless, I’m very grateful to that country and its citizens, who made me wiser and stronger. Besides that, I got my postgraduate degree in International Organizations in the capital of Poland. Even more important - I got married a polish man. Who could think and plan it? Love should never be something you plan. I highly recommend you to go to the multicultural city if you don’t want to stuck out like a sore thumb.

To be honest with you immigration with the partner is not easier than immigration alone.

Looking the same direction is important when you immigrate to the unknown world with your partner

It gives a common view and a common goal to a couple; otherwise, you are in a high risk of having depression, money losses or even worse - divorce.

When my husband and I moved from Poland to the US in 2018, we were not looking in the same direction. I wanted to stay with my beloved in the USA and to start life from scratch and my husband wanted to come back to our daily polish routine: doing business, having business trips and “enjoying our comfort zone” at our beautiful loft apartment not far from the Wawel Castle in Krakow.

It was a hard time for me: to inspire my spouse to give us a chance of new life in the city of angels (believe me or not, but you must be a good leader and equal partner in marriage to do so). Fortunately for me, for us and for women, whom I coach, my husband and I established a start-up company that empowers women to create the lives of their dreams through personal development, business-building, self-perfection and organizational skills improvement.

The picture was made in February 2018 when my husband and I came to the USA

The first dialogue after the flight:

Me: What do you feel in the air?

Husband: February warm weather and you?

Me: FREEDOM.

LAX, February 2018

What to Start with?

One of the most typical issues for an immigrant is a visa. There are plenty of programmes and specialities both for young professionals and experienced masters. Get rid of stereotypes and dismay! Studying in a foreign university of your dream isn’t it the easiest way to move, but worth it. Remember that it is never too late for improving yourself. Another opportunity to get a visa is a job offer. Keep in mind that an employer has to be ready to provide you with all the necessary papers as well as additional expenses. Working in an international company means a lot for potential immigrants: you never know who can offer a beneficial position. Also, global corporations represent an enormous plus to CV and language development.

Business trips should be perceived as the little trials for living abroad. Try not to stay in the expensive and luxury hotels, but rent a flat on Airbnb or Booking and experience local life combining with your affairs. One more common reason for immigration is a foreign spouse. Love can be found in the most unexpected places, but it is important to think whether the move worth it as well as whether the feelings are real and pretending to be long-lasting.

How people stay in the US with B1/B2 Visa?

If you came to the US as a tourist you can change your status from B1/B2 to:

F1 student, but bare in mind that education is very expensive in the US and the application process is time-consuming.
A political asylum is a good option for people who are unable to return to their home country, because of persecution, but I am against political asylum if you are not in danger at your homeland. As far as I know, Mr Trump will eliminate/limit asylum.
Visa for a Spouse or Fiance(e) of a U.S. citizen. I am against this option if it is not real love and just for the papers. I know some women for whom love is equivalent to the Green Card and money on the bank account. I try to avoid such women and I highly recommend you to do the same, because it calls – degradation.
If you are an extraordinary person, who demonstrates extraordinary ability in arts, sport, business, education, or the sciences, you can apply for an O1 visa.

Some options for Entrepreneurs:

An L-1 visa is a good option for the employees of an international company with offices abroad and in the US.
The E-2 visa is for individuals who invest a minimum of $250,000 and start and operate the business in the US.
H-1B visa is a temporarily employ visa category that allows employers to petition for highly educated foreign professionals. The key words are highly educated and professional , do not overvalue yourself!
EB visa is also very attractive BUT you have to invest half a million dollars in your business.

I am an immigrant for five years already and during my journey, I have met some unhappy immigrants who usually say something like “I didn’t have a choice” and… their toxic story begins. I always say the same thing –

You always have a choice

It is YOU, who make a choice and you are responsible for the choices you make. If you married a man/woman and you are unhappy about the marriage – it’s because of YOUR choice. If you got the political asylum lying to the immigration officer about the threats at your home country – remember that sooner or later the truth will come out and YOU are responsible for it.

Are you ready not to have lovely discussions with your friends every weekend and live without your favourite dentist and cosmetologist?
Are you ready to see the true colors of the people whom you called “friends” after one, two, three years since your immigration?
Are you ready to adjust to a new culture and traditions or do you plan to come to a foreign country and to spend time with the people from your motherland?
Can your master degree in law be adjusted to new circumstances?
Should you throw the business idea, what you’ve worked on so long, away?

Besides all of that, keep in mind the future professional occupation, medical insurance and climate.

Where to move to?

For sure, we all want to move to a developed country, which guarantees us security, social benefits and an acceptable level of taxes. First of all, one should pay attention to the proposals of the countries where there are special programs for immigrants. The countries, which represent the highest level of education, medicine, transport and social security, are the USA, Canada, Great Britain, Austria and Switzerland. If you want to move to one of these countries, you would definitely need to have some money with you at least for the first 3-6 months. Acknowledge that the countries, which represent a high level of life have high living standards, so make sure you can afford immigration there. Get ready to hustle, I mean truly to hustle putting aside the laziness and your higher degree from the University.

good things come to those who hustle

Be careful!

You never know what to expect from people who have different mentality and way of thinking. Let me share with you one of the brightest examples of crazy people on the Airbnb:

My husband and I rented the room from one lonely lady in the Palm Springs area.

On the second month of our rent, she made me an offer in the form of a letter that I can stay at her house for free as long as I want, if I’ll divorce my husband.

Obviously, I did not agree and two days later, she asked us to leave her house! It was not a kind request like: "Would you be so kind to leave my house?" Oh no, it was a scandal!

We really did not know what to do and we did not understand what is going on. Starbucks was the safest place for us that day. You know that it’s impossible to find a new place in 5 minutes. That day, I’ve realized that we have something that you cannot buy anywhere – we have each other and faith in our American Dream!

The American dream is not for everyone,

A lot of people are happy in Europe, Asia and Africa. Personally, for me, Europe is too small, and when I said it to Europeans, almost everyone said that I’m crazy. It was one of the reasons why I changed my life and environment around me since June 2018. My eyes are shining when I spend time with people who’re positive, ambitious and inspiring. Luckily for me, there are a lot of extraordinary, well-educated and ambitious people in Los Angeles. Frankly speaking, I do not know what can be better in human relations, than learning from each other and growing together?!

No matter what country you’ll move to, remember that tough times happen to all of us. No matter how strong or powerful or confident you are. Besides that, I’ve learnt that it doesn’t really matter what happens in your life - you have to live your values, believe in yourself and never give up on your dreams! As American lawyer and politician Brad Henry said:

“Believe in yourself, and the rest will fall into place. Have faith in your own abilities, work hard, and there is nothing you cannot accomplish”.

Do Goals Unite People?

Mon, 19 Aug 2019 07:21:46 GMT

Not so long ago, I announced on Instagram a contest for the best abbreviation for GUL. I got a lot of interesting answers like:

God’s Unlimited Love

Good Urban Living

Glaube Umarme Liebe

Giving Ultimate Life

Great Utilization of Living

Genuine Unstoppable Leader

And many other interesting abbreviations for GUL like “Goals Unite die Leute (die Leute from German: people). This particular example made me wonder if the goals unite people, while very often, problems, challenges and troubles unite people. Didn’t you notice that?

The vivid example of it is the annexation of Crimea and the war between Russia and Ukraine. Ukrainian people became united and patriotic, because of the war, not because of the achievement of independence in 1991.

How Ukrainians Show the Patriotism?

The list is long and I can go on, but I’m still wondering, where was the patriotism after the collapse of the Soviet Union? Why something terrible like war must happen to unite people? Why sustainable development goals do not work this way?

This issue occurs not only Ukraine – for instance, in the US patriotism and sense of unity strengthened after September 11th. That’s a universal problem that problems unite us and common goals divide us.

I’ve realized why I liked “Goals Unite die Leute” abbreviation so much:

all starts with the right mindset:

goals

should

unify people!

I encourage you to start today and to read more about Sustainable Development Goals at the official United Nations website and to think about how you can contribute to a meaningful change.

Afterwards, immediately write down your thoughts and put the thoughts into action.

I believe in you, I believe in us and I believe in the US – to show the example of the united nation and the rest of the world will follow!

How Habits WORK

Sat, 03 Aug 2019 02:09:24 GMT

In the American Journal of Psychology it is defined in this way: "A habit, from the standpoint of psychology, is a more or less fixed way of thinking, willing, or feeling acquired through previous repetition of a mental experience." Habits are routines of behavior that are repeated regularly and tend to occur subconsciously. Believe me or not, but how happy, successful and fulfilled you are in your life is the result of your habits.

Why Habits?

“I’m ready for change”, - I said to myself and wrote my “Why power”.

What is my “Why power”?

What is a Habit Tracker?

Habit tracker is a tool, which helps you to measure whether you did a habit or not. The trackers help you to be more mindful of your habits.

What can you track with the trackers, which I prepared for you?

For the beginning, you need 6 trackers: habit tracker&progress tracker will help you to adopt new habits and boost your productivity. Four other trackers are: food tracker, water tracker, sleep tracker and workout tracker will help you to have a clear and healthy mind. Do you know what “Mens sana in corpore sano” means? Mens sana in corpore sano is a Latin phrase, which means that a healthy mind is in a healthy body.

Do you want to have a healthy body and a clear mind? Do you want to stay on track with your goals? If your answer is YES, then download the trackers and find ways to motivate yourself and take the necessary actions to achieve your goals.

The actions steps towards new habits that stick:

Don’t think about a habit as it’s an obligation. Change the focus from “obligation” to “experiment”. Remember, no rules, no obligations, repeat to yourself: “It’s just an experiment, it’s just one month”.

Try to explain to your brain that it’s only for now (let’s say that you want to quit drinking coffee, believe me, or not, but you will think about coffee all the time. I’m sure that you don’t want “coffee” to rule your life, that’s why I encourage you to say to yourself: “It’s just one day without coffee”, another day, repeat the same and you will see that it’s not that bad without coffee (coffee is just an example).

Analyze how you can make it easier to implement a new habit to your life. For example, read about the benefits of life without coffee.

Surround yourself with people who lift you higher, respect you and your life choices. Again, let’s say that you want to quit drinking coffee and your partner/friends don’t quit this habit (remember, that’s totally fine, you don’t have to avoid them and don’t push on them to quit drinking coffee with you, respect other people’s life choices, be an example and inspire them to quit drinking coffee if you want best for people you love). Just tell to your partner/friends about your new habits and ask politely not to invite you for coffee, but instead, let them invite you for a cup of delicious tea or whatever you like; there’re so many options nowadays, but please, avoid drinking sugary drinks (it doesn’t worth it).

I highly recommend you the tea attached below:

Talking about people in the 21st century, it worth to mention the influencers on social media. Follow the ones who inspire you, who share their knowledge and experience, not selfies.

When you lose motivation, come back to your “why power” and read it once in a while. If you’re anything like me, you can write your “why power” and put it to the wall at home (it’s what I usually do and it helps me a lot).

Last but not least, visualize the result! Always! Just imagine your best life. Now! Imagined? Write it down.

How to track the habits?

Remember the one thing, your work on the habit does not begin when you track the progress, your work on the habit begins when you realize that you want to do it and when you start a research (reading a blog is the first step towards the realization of your big goal), which means that you’re on the right direction towards your goal realization.

I won’t be tired to repeat hundred of thousands of time that planning is the most important stage in working on a habit.

First of all, plan the day when will you print your trackers and set up the day for a new chapter in your life.

Tracking the habits is so easy because all you have to do is to add your habit and start crossing off the days, placing an X on each day or something more design-oriented. Do whatever feels good to you, there’re no exact rules, you’re the one who sets the rules for yourself about how you use your trackers and live your life.

I recommend you to sit down at the end of the day with a cup of your favourite tea or water with a lemon slice and fill in the boxes for the habits you did or you didn’t, it will take you only 5 minutes of your time. Do 5 minutes worth to be closer to your goals? 5 minutes – big goal; 5 minutes – big goal and one more time 5 minutes of your time daily and boooooom - the realization of your life goals! I think that it worth it, but not every one thinks this way, that’s why not everyone feels fulfilled in life.

How to start?

Schedule 15 minutes of your precious time and ask yourself five simple, but very important questions:

1 . What habits do I want to implement to my life?

2. What is my “Why Power”?

3. How new habits will help me to be closer to my goals?

4. What will I achieve after one month with my new habits?

5. What will I achieve in a year?

If you don’t know how to set the goals, schedule your consultation via the form below

Books Recommendation about habits:

1. The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg

2. Atomic Habits by James Clear

3. Mini Habits by Stephen Guise

Why America is Great Again and Again?

Tue, 23 Jul 2019 01:56:36 GMT

veryone knows that with the collapse of the Soviet Union, the US became the only superpower in the world. What does the superpower really mean and how America became a superpower? A superpower is defined as a country that has global influence over others in cultural, technological, military and political spheres. No global question can be decided without the US intervention. President Abraham Lincoln called the US “last, best hope of earth.” Can people make sure in the leader`s words now or it still has much to advance?

To start with, the country has the world’s longest functioning democracy , which includes individual autonomy as well as equality and freedom. The principles of democracy are imparted from the very childhood in kindergartens, schools and families, what makes it the part of the system of certain values. Mature Americans believe that only by their own productive work they can achieve their goals. Not surprisingly that the headquarters of the United Nations is situated in New York. The Organisation is an ideal example of human rights` and equality support. They share similar values as the leading country in the world. In the same time, the Organization has become a mechanism for government to find areas of agreement and solve problems together.

One can live the whole life, coming to work every day with a productivity-goal.

If workers are motivated and educated enough, the economy gets developed faster. This brings us to the topic of higher education. What if I asked you to name the top-notch universities in the world? For sure, computer programmers and engineers would answer Massachusetts Institute of Technology or California Institute of Technology, economists and businessmen would name Stanford University, and Harvard University would without any doubts come to politician`s mind, as the latest can be proud of eight US presidents. One of the reasons for such excellent results of the students is brain drain. The term is used to mark the immigration process of the most outstanding and desirable scientists and professionals.

From the other perspective enormous number of intelligent inhabitants creates high level of competitiveness: worker stake part in a struggle to beat the competition in the given conditions. The moment you stop, your colleague uses in a way to accomplish the task and succeed. Nobody gets time to computer-face and waste time. The best example of work-competition can be seen on the Wall Street, where white-collar workers labour at stock exchanges. The work with information means per-second following the trends of stock prices and quick reaction. Professionals measure their results as a percentage, because their income is about millions and millions of dollars. The impact on the US economy is obvious.

This way, the number of millionaires, including self-made millionaires, is astonishing: out of the

117 million households in the USA, there are more than 1 million of them (almost 1 in 10) who have more than a million dollars in assets (not counting their houses). Is the key in productivity of an individual or in the forceful economy? The answer still needs to be found by your own, because it depends on you and your perception of the world.

The United States has a First World trade profile

America represents the massive exports of consumer and technology goods and imports of natural resources. Both import and export form the basis of international economic relations. Export products are often optimized for sale internally. The US export wares are considered to be in high demand because of supreme quality, trust, large selection, profitability as well as stable economy in the country. It is crucial to note that the US is the best in arms exports among the ninety nations, having the most powerful military in the world in the same time.

Considering entertainment, the USA certainly makes good its running. The industry of cinema and music experience thousands of castings each day testing actors, musicians and models. Why the American music is world known? The reason is in uniqueness and extraordinary rhythms. Elements of folk idioms such as blues were borrowed and transformed into popular genres with a global audience. Respectively, the USA definitely should blow its own trumpet. Artists of different genres have the freedom of opinion and expression. Having started with the very first movie in the world, the US advanced in running the powerful studios, such as 20th Century Fox, Columbia Pictures, DreamWorks, Paramount Picture and many others. Now the highest budget films are created by leading directors and producers: David Lynch, Quentin Tarantino, James Cameron, David Fincher.

What is the Real Cause of an Earthquake?

Fri, 12 Jul 2019 04:18:55 GMT

Hopefully, this blog post will inspire you, move you and make you motivated to contribute to this world in which we’re together!

Before fireworks, barbeque and celebration of 4th of July in southern California began, nature unleashed its vibrant blast of energy: an earthquake. Earthquakes are usually caused when rock underground suddenly breaks along a fault. This sudden release of energy causes the unstable waves that make the ground shake. If you believe that there’s no coincidence with God, you know that nothing happens suddenly.

Let’s come back for a moment to the holiday of the 4th of July, also known as Independence Day or July 4th. It has been a federal holiday in the United States since 1941, but the tradition of Independence Day celebrations go back to the American Revolution. According to historical records, on the 1st continental congress in 1774, before the opening weeks of the Congress, the delegates spoke to God - studying the Chapters of Bible and praying together. On July 2nd, 1776, the Continental Congress voted in favour of independence, and two days later, delegates from the 13 colonies adopted the Declaration of Independence, a historic document drafted by Thomas Jefferson. From 1776 to the present day, July 4th has been celebrated as the birth of American Independence.

Don’t you find an earthquake as a symbolic gesture on the Independence Day of America? Don’t you think that it’s an evident sign that we’re doing something wrong on this Earth? Don’t you think that we take our Independence for granted along with the peaceful sky above?

The sceptics may say that Californians live in constant awareness of the possibility of an earthquake, but my blog is for broad-minded people, who’re able to think “outside the box”.

The latest earthquake was on Friday, the 5th of July and it was five times bigger and 11 times stronger than Thursday's (4th of July) 6.4 -magnitude earthquake. The 7.1-magnitude earthquake that rattled Southern California on Friday came one day after the strongest recorded quake there in 20 years had struck, which was on January 17, 1994 in the San Fernando Valley region of Los Angeles. The earthquake killed more than 60 people, injuring more than 9,000, and causing widespread damage. Thousands of buildings were either destroyed outright, or declared unsafe to enter, and later demolished. (Source: The Atlantic, 'The Northridge Earthquake, 20 Years Ago Today', accessed on 07/07/2019).

Let’s analyze what happens to your body when you feel stressed

When your body is subjected to stress, it goes into fight-or-flight mode. Stress hormones flood your body and speed up your heart rate, blood pressure, and your breathing. When you’re having severe anxiety, it causes physical symptoms: like twitching, or shaking.

Believe me or not, but stress and an earthquake are interrelated between each other! Let me show you how: stress is your body’s way of responding to any kind of demand or threat, the stress response is the body’s way of protecting you. When working properly, it helps you stay focused and energetic. In emergency situations, stress can save your life — giving you extra strength to protect yourself and makes you to rethink things in your life.

Earthquake considered as an emergency situation and there is no coincidence that it happened to us right now, in 2019 and in the USA. Working properly will help us to rethink life priorities, behaviour, the nation's relationship with other nations and relationship with God. If the US will do it, the rest of the world will follow (read about "Why America is Great Again and Again").

Did you catch the parallel of my thinking and my attitude to the earthquake? I hope so!

Let's Sum Up

Earthquake is not the best and not the most pleasant experience in the world, but this way Mother Nature and God speak to us. When a country stands back to God, God stands back from that country. When God drifts apart from the country, His blessings also disappear. God has spoken to us, humans through the earthquake (4th and 5th of July, 2019).

Isn’t it an amazing thing that the living God wants to speak to us? Doesn’t that absolutely blow your mind that God STILL wants to speak to us, humans who destroy almost everything in this world: the faith, the moral values, grace... Respond to the Holy Spirit. Go outside. Fellowship with others. God is ready and willing to speak to us after all we’ve done to the Mother Nature. We just need to be listening!

What is Marriage?

Sun, 16 Jun 2019 07:21:10 GMT

This blog post was written to our third marriage anniversary. With this incredible man who's hugging me on the pictures, I’ve learned how to love and to forgive. My husband Daniel Gul showed me the world through different eyes... Thank you, my love, I’ll always be grateful for that.

The blog post might be useful for married couples and women and men who’re thinking about marriage.

What is marriage?

Marriage is an institution of two, who’re sharing the same values and looking in the same direction in life. Marriage is the process by which two people make their relationship official. Marriage means that this is forever. The institution of two lasts until death and the process of forever doesn’t mean the death of the relationship (divorce). You’re a team of two in grief and joy, in wealth and poverty. When both members are ready to expand their institution, they plan parenthood.

The key words are:

they – is a third plural pronoun (Collins Dictionary)

plan - is a method of achieving something that you have worked out in detail beforehand (Collins Dictionary)

Two people are responsible for the decisions and actions in the institution the name of which is a family.

As a Professional Planner, I must admit that it’s impossible to plan everything. Personally, I didn’t plan to get married until my 30’s, but love should never be something you plan. Preparing for a baby is something different than preparing for finding the love of your life. Preparing for a baby together is a MUST because you’re giving life to a newborn human infant, who will contribute or destroy the world one day.

Marriage Equality

When partners in a marriage value equality, they would never “fight for territory”, because they see each other as equals and each values the other’s life. Let me explain: that’s unfair that women do household tasks and childcare, only because IT’S THEIR ROLE. Who said so and when? We should treat each other with respect, consider each other’s needs and support one another. Let’s look at an example of Prime Minister of New Zealand, Jacinda Ardern, who became a mom in 2018. Her partner put his work on hold to look after the daughter, while she’s busy as Prime Minister of New Zealand. Their example shows us that there’s nothing like gender roles because in marriage it’s all about making decisions as a married couple and prioritizing the tasks together.

Let me show you another example, which comes to my mind when I think about inequality. This situation happened to me a year ago. I used to go for a manicure to one girl, who worked from home. Once, I was her last client and she said to me the following: “I work from 9 AM till 9 PM and afterward I make dinner for my partner. I’m so exhausted, can someone do it instead of me?” she sighed. I told her that this “someone” is her partner, who has hands and can make dinner instead of her. To what she said that her partner works the whole day and she’s the one who’s at home. If you only saw me and my reaction to that! Does it sound unfair only to me? I’m so sorry, but what’s she doing?

To make the long story short, if you’re a woman - it doesn’t mean that you’re responsible for cooking; you can always ask your partner for help or order food online. Secondly, if you work from home it doesn’t mean that the partner who’s coming back home from the office is more tired or more important than you. Last but not least, do not depreciate yourself and don’t do something you don’t want to. Next time, if you don’t want, let’s say, to make dinner (even if you divided the responsibilities and cooking is your duty; it’s nothing wrong with asking your partner for help. The one, who loves, will never be angry with you. Likewise, he/she will be grateful for your trust and honesty).

Remember the one thing, it doesn’t matter if you’re a Prime Minister or a manicurist - don’t make the decisions based on society and parents expectations and don’t do something you don’t want to do.

Marriage means that you’re united and there’s no such power, which can influence the unity between you both. That’s your family and you both, as the equal partners, decide by your own what’re your roles in the family. Once you have agreed about what decisions you want to make together, talk about how the two of you will handle making the decisions together.

Practical Exercise

Devote 15 minutes and ask yourself the following questions:

1. What’s your role in the family?

2. Who does what?

3. What’re you comfortable with?

4. What’re you not comfortable with?

5. Who will work/stay home after having children?

Recommendation: set the meeting with your partner and discuss the responsibilities of your family. Set a one on one meeting at least once a month and discuss progress with each other.

Remember, there’s no reason for conflict! Communication is a very important tool for a healthy marriage and partners must talk to each other and discuss their life together.

Wedding Photography by: @peonyparkphotography

Bridal Make Up and hair by: @linmichellelin

Flowers: @deflorala

Gown designer: @connietaodesigns

Equality or Gender Equality?

Wed, 12 Jun 2019 04:19:51 GMT

What's Gender Equality and 5 Things You Can Do To Improve Gender Equality Today

Gender equality benefits everyone, which is why it has been nominated as the United Nations Sustainable Development Goal (UN SDG) number five. The world has achieved progress towards gender equality and women’s empowerment under the Millennium Development Goals (including equal access to primary education between girls and boys), but why women and men have the same rights only in 6 countries in the whole world?

Gender, according to the American Psychological Association, reflects the attitudes, feelings, and behaviours that a given culture associates with biological sex. The term "gender identity" is often conflated with sexual identity, but "gender" refers to whether a person is typically masculine and/or feminine as defined by their local culture. When we socialize men to not show sadness and fear, to be tough, strong and violent and when we socialize women to be emotional and orientated towards others, we contribute to a culture that leaves both men and women at a disadvantage.

Men don’t have to be violent only because they’re physically stronger by nature, and women, don’t have to be the victims of violence simply because they’re physically weaker. Women were not born to suffer and men were not born for making harm to other women and men. Women and men were created to contribute to the world together, owing the nature differences, which is significant in achievement of Sustainable Development Goals. We should treat everyone the same and remember that it’s only genetic predispositions that produce individual differences.
Our differences have nothing in common with having the equal rights and access to the same opportunities

Each person has his own human rights and gender equality and the empowerment of women do not mean that men and women are becoming the same. Women have inalienable rights and there is nothing wrong with fighting for such rights, but when the battle goes beyond the ring, it can lead to the destruction of itself. The struggle for rights differs from the struggle for equality. The existence of the same rights is not equivalent to equality. We can fight for our rights, but not for equality. Equality is not something we demand for, rather it is something we must work for, if we want to have it. Equality is not a result of our existence, equality lies in how we develop ourselves. If we want to gain equality, we need to work out our essence to correspond to that of the person we want to be equal with.

Is it possible for women to be equal with men?

A man through hard exercise can become equal or ‘more equal’ to someone who was naturally stronger than him. Man can be equal to other man or even better than him. It doesn’t mean that women can’t be intelligent and successful as men; it means that women can’t be physically the same as men by nature. Do women and men have equal rights? Absolutely yes! The problem is that people usually misunderstand the term and meaning of “Gender Equality”. Remember, it’s not about being THE SAME it’s about having the same rights and opportunities. For instance, in 2019, Belgium, Denmark, France, Latvia, Luxembourg and Sweden – scored 100 on the index, which means that women have equal rights in the 35 measured areas.

Is it possible to have the same rights and access to the same opportunities?
- Yes!

Is it possible to be the same?

The answer is – no!

Making long story short, inequality between the genders doesn’t just affect individuals – it affects everyone and every aspect of life! The first step towards gender equality is to remember that gender equality is NOT about being the same; it’s about having equal rights and the same opportunities.

Practical Exercise

5 steps of your contribution to the world towards Gender Equality

1) Write down what does the gender equality means for you, keep the definition of the gender equality, which you wrote in your mind and come back to it when someone wants to violate your rights and boundaries.

2) Write down the responsibilities in your family, find a gap and divide equally the opportunities in your institution, the name of which is “Family”.

3) Does your partner say what you MUST do only because you’re a man or a woman? Example: “Clean the dishes; it’s not man’s work” “Why don’t you keep your word, aren’t you a man?”

If your answer is “yes” – set the boundaries in the relationships and divide the responsibilities (step 2) no matter what your gender is. If your answer is “no” – congratulations! You set and keep the healthy boundaries in your relationships and you don’t allow anyone to tell you what to do emphasising inappropriate attention to your gender role in life.

4) If you’re a woman, ask yourself “Do I make less money than my male colleague?” If you answer is “yes” just go and ask for promotion, if you answer is “no” - congratulations girl, you know your rights and you don’t remain the silent.

5) Work together. Girls know best what their challenges are in education and it is imperative to involve them in the discussions to address the gap, but it’s impossible to achieve equality hating and blaming the opposite gender.

If we want to be treated equally in social, economic and all other aspects of society we should unite together, women and men.

Photography by: @kazafstone

Make Up by: @makeupbyadjua

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4 secrets to building a brand that people love

You define your brand and your personality is reflected in your service, and product (your baby). MY 4 LOVEMARK rules. Photography by @veronika.shsh

Time to Get to Know Each Other Better

It’s time to reintroduce myself and take our relationships to the next level.

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Awaken your voice

Empowering activities during COVID – 19 lockdown

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How to Migrate to a Different Country?

Do Goals Unite People?

Not so long ago, I announced on Instagram a contest for the best abbreviation for GUL. I got a lot of interesting answers like:

How Habits WORK

Why America is Great Again and Again?

What is the Real Cause of an Earthquake?

Hopefully, this blog post will inspire you, move you and make you motivated to contribute to this world in which we’re together!

Don’t you find an earthquake as a symbolic gesture on the Independence Day of America? Don’t you think that it’s an evident sign that we’re doing something wrong on this Earth? Don’t you think that we take our Independence for granted along with the peaceful sky above?

The sceptics may say that Californians live in constant awareness of the possibility of an earthquake, but my blog is for broad-minded people, who’re able to think “outside the box”.

Let’s analyze what happens to your body when you feel stressed

When your body is subjected to stress, it goes into fight-or-flight mode. Stress hormones flood your body and speed up your heart rate, blood pressure, and your breathing. When you’re having severe anxiety, it causes physical symptoms: like twitching, or shaking.

Did you catch the parallel of my thinking and my attitude to the earthquake? I hope so!

Let's Sum Up

What is Marriage?

This blog post was written to our third marriage anniversary. With this incredible man who's hugging me on the pictures, I’ve learned how to love and to forgive. My husband Daniel Gul showed me the world through different eyes... Thank you, my love, I’ll always be grateful for that.

The blog post might be useful for married couples and women and men who’re thinking about marriage.

What is marriage?

The key words are:

they – is a third plural pronoun (Collins Dictionary)

plan - is a method of achieving something that you have worked out in detail beforehand (Collins Dictionary)

Two people are responsible for the decisions and actions in the institution the name of which is a family.

Marriage Equality

Remember the one thing, it doesn’t matter if you’re a Prime Minister or a manicurist - don’t make the decisions based on society and parents expectations and don’t do something you don’t want to do.

Practical Exercise

Devote 15 minutes and ask yourself the following questions:

1. What’s your role in the family?

2. Who does what?

3. What’re you comfortable with?

4. What’re you not comfortable with?

5. Who will work/stay home after having children?

Recommendation: set the meeting with your partner and discuss the responsibilities of your family. Set a one on one meeting at least once a month and discuss progress with each other.

Remember, there’s no reason for conflict! Communication is a very important tool for a healthy marriage and partners must talk to each other and discuss their life together.

Equality or Gender Equality?

What's Gender Equality and 5 Things You Can Do To Improve Gender Equality Today

Is it possible to have the same rights and access to the same opportunities? - Yes! Is it possible to be the same? The answer is – no!

Practical Exercise

5 steps of your contribution to the world towards Gender Equality

1) Write down what does the gender equality means for you, keep the definition of the gender equality, which you wrote in your mind and come back to it when someone wants to violate your rights and boundaries.

2) Write down the responsibilities in your family, find a gap and divide equally the opportunities in your institution, the name of which is “Family”.

3) Does your partner say what you MUST do only because you’re a man or a woman? Example: “Clean the dishes; it’s not man’s work” “Why don’t you keep your word, aren’t you a man?”

4) If you’re a woman, ask yourself “Do I make less money than my male colleague?” If you answer is “yes” just go and ask for promotion, if you answer is “no” - congratulations girl, you know your rights and you don’t remain the silent.

5) Work together. Girls know best what their challenges are in education and it is imperative to involve them in the discussions to address the gap, but it’s impossible to achieve equality hating and blaming the opposite gender.

If we want to be treated equally in social, economic and all other aspects of society we should unite together, women and men.

You define your brand and your personality is reflected in your service, and product (your baby).
MY 4 LOVEMARK rules.

Photography by @veronika.shsh

Is it possible to have the same rights and access to the same opportunities?
- Yes!

Is it possible to be the same?

The answer is – no!